Let’s face it, blow jobs are a pretty darn popular sexual activity and most folks who have penises seem to enjoy having those penises sucked. That said, some folks can get anxious about whether they are doing it well or if their partner is enjoying the ride. Even the most confident fellatio aficionados might be looking for ways to take their beej experience to the next level. Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered. Today we’re talking about blow job tips that can make your next oral sex adventure your best yet.
Consent First
As with any and all sexual activities, including deep penetrating sexual positions, blow jobs require explicit, enthusiastic consent. Movies and television are notorious for depictions of “surprise” blow jobs that lead to instant ecstasy. DO NOT do this. Counter to what popular media implies, not everyone who has a penis is down to have that penis sucked without warning or in public or at work or while they are sleeping. Seriously, consent before anything else.
In case you think consent makes things less sexy, allow me to remind you that saying “I’d love to suck your cock right now, may I?” is super hot while still giving the other party the space to decline if they are not into it.
Additionally, even if someone has consented to a blow job, they still need to consent to other activities you might want to add on. There are lots of articles out there that encourage readers to spice up a blow job with ball play or by stimulating the receiver’s anus. Again, DO NOT do this without consent. Asking your partner how they like their balls touched or if they are into being on the receiving end of butt play is a simple, sexy way to make sure everyone is on the same page and nothing happens without consent.
Foreplay
For some folks, a blow job is part of the foreplay that precedes intercourse, while for others, the blow might be the main event. Either way, blow jobs can also come with some foreplay all their own that can elevate the experience for everyone involved.
You might want to do some prep for yourself, maybe tying your hair back if it’s long, grabbing some flavored lube, setting out any props you want to make yourself comfortable (because while we use the word “job” to describe it, fellatio should not feel like work!), and whatever else you might like.
Then, when it comes to getting the person on the receiving end ready to rumble (as it were), there are many ways to warm them up and get them excited long before you get down to business. From sexy texts that hint and tease to gentle finger sucking while you are making out to stroking their chest and running your hands down to feel their erection through their pants, you can build up so much enjoyable tension while everyone is still dressed.
Don't Rush
Once some clothes come off (or maybe the clothes stay on and just the penis comes out, totally up to you!), you don’t have to get right to intense cock sucking. Take your time, stroke the penis, experiment with some teasing, light licking, stroking of the inner thighs and stomach, make your partner really yearn for the moment you take their penis into your mouth.
Then, once you do, take your time there. It’s not a race to orgasm. It’s a process that can deliver a whole lot of pleasure for both of you. With that in mind, play with different ways to use your mouth. Incorporate your hands (manual stimulation is a HUGE part of a good blow job!), add some lube (flavored lube can be really fun during oral sex) to get things super slick, experiment with your blowjob positions to deliver the ideal experience for both of you.
Whatever you’re going for, take your time to find it and enjoy it!
Play with Positions
We talk about this a little in the previous section, but I cannot stress this enough, there is no one way to give a great blow job. Experiment with positions. What is comfortable? What do you both find sexy? What creates the experience you are going for? There are so many options, don’t be afraid to switch it up and try different things.
Do you want to look into your partner’s eyes while their cock is in your mouth? Try having them sit in a comfy chair where they can lean back and still maintain eye contact. Do you dream of deep throating? Try laying with your head hanging off the edge of the bed and having your partner stand facing you. This puts your throat in one long line, which helps facilitate the elusive deep throat experience.
If you are uncomfortable, you can always change to a position that works for both of you!
Communicate and Check In
Even the most skilled lover cannot read minds. Staying aware of your partner’s body language or the sounds they’re making is great, but it is not a substitute for checking in and communicating. Communication during sexual activity gets a bum rap. People seem to think it is awkward and unsexy or “kills the vibe” but here’s the thing, any vibe that can be “killed” by making sure everyone is enjoying themselves is not a vibe worth maintaining anyway. Staying communicative can be fun and sexy. PLUS, it’s a surefire way to be 100% certain that everything that is happening is consensual.
Consider using a lubricated hand to continue stroking your partner’s penis while you give them a kiss and ask if they are enjoying themselves or what they would like to happen next. You can also play with something I like to call “this or that”. Here you administer two different types of stimulation, let’s say licking and sucking and you ask your partner which they prefer: “Which do you like better, this [long lick up the shaft of their penis] or that [gently sucking on the head of the penis]?” It’s a fun way to keep communication going while still having a lot of sexy fun.
Take it to the Next Level
So, blow jobs aren’t all about bobbing up and down with your mouth until it’s finished! We’ve already talked about how incorporating hands, especially lubricated hands, can take the experience to the next level, and there are so many ways to play with that. From swirling your hands up and down the shaft while sucking on the penis head, to using your hands to gently cradle their balls while you take their penis all the way into your mouth, to using your hands to slap their cock against your tongue, the possibilities are limited only by your imagination and their stamina.
Another good blowjob tip is to consider adding in some sex toys! Vibrators aren’t just for vulvas, incorporating one into a blow job can be a game-changer. With your partner's consent, try running it along the shaft, gently teasing the balls with it, or pressing it gently against the perineum (the space between the anus and the testicles) to stimulate the prostate from outside the body.
If the recipient is into butt play, you can tease the anus with your fingers or incorporate a butt plug or prostate stimulator. If restraints turn you both on, try restraining the recipient and treating them to a long, sensuous blow job, or try restraining the giver and letting the recipient control the action. There are even lubricants designed to create certain sensations like heat or tingling and they can be a fun way to add something special to your BJ.
There are so many ways to take fellatio to the next level. So if you and your partner are curious, cease the opportunity for some super fun (and sexy) exploration!
Prep for Finish
All good things must come to an end, and that includes blow jobs. When it comes to how you want to wrap up your BJ, there are a couple of things you want to think about:
Does the recipient want to orgasm? So, if a good blow job is just one part of your sexual agenda, then it is possible that you and your partner would rather they not ejaculate right now. Check in with them to make sure you stop short of taking them over the edge.
If you are planning on continuing on to intercourse, be aware of what types of lubricants you used during the blow job. Lubes that are flavored or warming/cooling lubes can have ingredients that can irritate vaginas or anuses, while oil-based lubes can break down latex or polyisoprene condoms. If necessary, take a moment to clean any kind of lube that you don’t want going into your body before moving on to intercourse.
If they are going to ejaculate, where do you both want it to happen? Some folks love to end a blow job by ejaculating into their partner’s mouth. If this is your partner’s preference and yours as well, then great, go for it! Alternately, you can play with bringing them to orgasm with your hands and allowing them to ejaculate onto your body. However you play it, it’s good to be prepared for when they orgasm so that you both get to enjoy the experience and so you don’t unintentionally choke on semen.
However, if you want to bring the blow job to a close, make sure you are both on the same page, so you get a satisfying ending to your oral sex adventure.
Play it Safe
So, a lot of folks consider oral sex a “safer” alternative to vaginal or anal sex. The fact of the matter is, you can still pass on sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as herpes, human papillomavirus (HPV), chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, hepatitis A, and hepatitis B via oral sex. Additionally, while the transmission of HIV by oral sex is considered rare, it is still possible. The point is, if you are concerned about STIs, it makes sense to employ barrier methods even during your blow jobs.
Condoms and gloves can significantly reduce the risk of transmitting STIs through oral sex but that mostly applies to infections that are caused by the sharing of fluids. In the case of STIs that are spread via skin-to-skin contact like HPV and herpes, barrier methods are only partially effective because there is a lot of skin they just don’t cover.
To give a great blow job while using barrier methods, consider using flavored condoms which can be a bit more fun for the giver and employing lots of lube, especially inside the condom which can help replicate the warm and wet sensation of being inside a mouth for the recipient. Just be sure both you and your partner know how a condom should fit for the best experience.
When it comes to blow jobs, these oral sex tips are just the beginning; there are so many fun ways to explore and take your blowjob game to the next level. From positions to techniques, to fun lubes, to sex toy, there’s a whole lot to play with. So grab your partner, talk about what sounds fun to both of you, and get ready to give some amazing head that neither of you will ever forget.
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